CiCAIR – Construction Industry Council Approved Inspectors Register
this company has the power to overturn any of there licensed inspectors certificates if they are incorrectly given.
What is the DARVO mentality?
Some people call this pattern “DARVO” which stands for “deny, attack, reverse victim and offender.” 1 It’s a way to shift the blame away from the abuser and make seem like the one at fault. Harsey, S. & Freyd, J.J. (People also ask)
How to respond to a DARVO repsonse?
How to Respond to DARVO.
- Stay grounded in your truth. One of the main goals of DARVO is to make you doubt yourself…
- Do Not Engage in the Blame Game. ….
- Set Clear Boundaries. …
- Recognize When It’s Not Worth Engaging
The above, so you understand when i mark the word DARVO on other peoples comments.
Re. DARVO in my own personal fight over the last 10 years or so against corruption Bankers & Career Criminals bent Watchdogs i have seen honest victims mentally destroyed By reacting to the DARVO prover.
What is Gas Lighting?
Gaslighting is a form of psychological and emotional manipulation where a person tries to make another doubt their own reality, memory, or sanity. The term comes from the 1938 play and film Gas Light, in which a husband manipulates his wife into believing she is insane by secretly dimming the house’s gas lights and then denying that they have changed. Gaslighting is a serious form of coercive control, often used to gain power and control over a victim within any type of relationship, such as romantic, family, or professional.
Examples of Gaslighting
- Denying facts or events: A gaslighter might insist they never said something or that something you remember clearly did not happen.
- Questioning your sanity: They may tell you you are “too sensitive,” “overly emotional,” or “going crazy” when you express your needs or concerns.
- Undermining your confidence: The manipulator may constantly criticize your abilities or intelligence.
- Minimizing your feelings: They might dismiss your thoughts and feelings as invalid or unimportant.
- Lying and misremembering: The abuser may lie outright or deliberately misremember events to make you doubt your own memory.
How it Works
Creates self-doubt:
Repeatedly questioning your perceptions, memories, and feelings causes confusion and makes you doubt your own judgment.
Gains control:
The goal of gaslighting is to gain power and control over the victim, often making them more dependent on the abuser.
Erodes self-confidence:
Over time, this behaviour can erode the victim’s confidence and self-worth, making them more vulnerable.
Why It’s Harmful
Gaslighting is a severe form of abuse that can have lasting negative effects on a person’s mental and emotional health. It shifts the focus from the abuser’s harmful behaviour to the supposed psychological instability of the victim
Why i keep flagging the DARVO situation and gas lighting is because i have been schooled and trained in this for 2 years by my making a mistake of hiring a career criminal who was well versed in all these topics. Not only did he practice these methods that is on myself but my brilliant staff who were capable of bringing him down by finalising ISO’s to instigate regular audits. He found there weaker points and surreptitiously spread rumours about me through other staff which made them feel extremely uneasy and in some cases loss of self esteem.
8 months before the demise of my company it was obvious to me this villan was up to no good in several areas but being experienced covered himself by developing many smoke screens. Lloyds Bank instead of helping me when i visited them on 23rd November 2013, put in a BSU manager who further tried the techniques of gas lighting me to make me feel that i solely was the cause of all the problems the company was experiencing. This same BSU person from Lloyds did just the same with an SME colleague who lives in the same Fenland area of me destroying his two busines by leading him down the wrong path. (to me this is organised crime) From than on to my devise Lloyds Bank through me under a bus on every occasion they could. Plus the police being provided with totally sound evidence of corruption and cover ups the bank were perpetrating had no appetite to do anything about it what so ever. The watch dogs appeared to be complicit with police and ignoring these matters for me and thousands of other SME’s that were purposely destroyed to satisfy the greed with a hierarchy within the banking industry.
Lloyds BSU
Lloyds BSU and Royal Bank of Scotland GRG (Global Restructuring Group) – Both these bank departments there work was to support clients who were facing difficulties but in fact both these banking companies use them to destroy businesses and claim the assets.